It's all about them
When someone tells you: ”I love you” and then you feel: ”Oh, I must be worthy after all” – that’s an illusion. That’s not true. Or someone says: ”I hate you” and you think: ”Oh, God, I knew it; I’m not very worthy” – that’s not true either.
Neither thought holds any instrinsic reality.
They are an overlay. When someone says: ”I love you”, he is telling you about himself. When someone says: ”I hate you”, she is telling you about herself. Not you. World views are self views – literally.